BDSM Dating

Find Play Partners and Kinky Friends


The Bloom Community App was made by and for kinky people. Our community embraces the BDSM values of consent, communication, and respect, and celebrates all the possibilities of kinky connection. Whether you're a masochist, rope bunny, exhibitionist, or age player, the Bloom Community is here for kinky folks of all varieties.

The Kink and BDSM Community is here


Don't know who you're playing with yet at an upcoming party? We know that pickup play is intimidating and not everyone is comfortable approaching strangers - even in the kink and BDSM community. Bloom Community allows you to see who's going, match, and chat with them beforehand to coordinate scenes, find accountability buddies, and ease your way in!

Develop Budding Kinky Relationships


For folks in the kink and BDSM community, we know relationships can easily flow between friendship, romance, kink, and sex. Here at Bloom Community, we do not prescribe or presuppose what each connection between members will become. We call connections made in Bloom "Buds" because we want to create the space for many types of connections to form organically. This leaves it up to the two (or more) consenting adults to determine what form their connection will take and what feels right to them. We encourage you to see your Buds as people first, and beyond that whatever comes authentically to you.

In line with our values, members indicate clearly what they want from the Bloom Community

Select what you're looking for

It can be as many or as few of these options as you want!

Customize specificity

Don't feel restricted by our labels! Tell folks exactly what you mean to whatever extent you'd like

Become Buds!

See what others are looking for and Bud them accordingly

Direct communication
Respect for all preferences

Signify whether you want to be Buds and/or have romantic interest in folks you meet at events, and we'll let you know if it's mutual

Indicate your interest

Toggle options for "Buds" and "Romantic interest" allow for various types of connections

We'll send a message

You'll be connected in Bloom with folks who have shared mutual interest

Get connected

Take your new connection wherever it leads!

Mutual opt-in
Clear communication

Explore Intersectional Identities


Not all kinky people or BDSM relationships look the same. Many (but not all) kinky people also identify as queer, LGBTQ+, polyamorous, and sex positive *link these pages*. We embrace the diversity of the kink, BDSM, and leather scenes and provide members with opportunities to connect with intersectional and overlapping communities that share our sex positive values.

Kink Centric, All Inclusive


Not everyone is kinky and that's okay too. You can still embody principles like direct communication and affirmative consent, which are central to BDSM play and valuable in all human interactions. The Bloom Community is open to everyone who shares our community values.